Spring has a seductive energy. After months of winter's quiet and stillness, the return of light and warmth can feel like a dam breaking. Suddenly you want to do everything — travel more, deepen your relationships, try new things, feel more alive, be more present. The list grows almost instantly.
And because you’re so excited, you say yes to all of it.
Then you're overwhelmed and frozen. And because you couldn't sustain it, nothing actually moves forward. The potential of spring comes and goes. You arrive to summer feeling like you missed it somehow.
This is one of the most common traps of spring energy. So I want to offer a simple reframe that can help.
Before moving into reflection, I want to offer you a concept that will change how you approach your spring intentions: the doable piece.
Spring energy is expansive and exciting, but also deceptively overwhelming. When we feel that surge of possibility and say yes to everything, we often can't complete any of it. When we can't complete what we start, we don't actually grow. The maturation that comes from following something through is what carries us forth into summer.
So instead of asking "What do I want?"
Try asking: "what's the doable piece of this desire?"
Here's what that looks like in practice:
Maybe you're craving more adventure in your relationship. In the high of spring energy, your mind immediately goes big — a trip or total reinvention of date night.Then you get paralyzed by logistics and the gap between where you are and where you want to be. So nothing happens.
But what if the doable piece of adventure is simply trying a new coffee shop you've never been to? Or booking an axe throwing date night? Small and completable, to actually move you forward towards your desire.
Or maybe you have a laundry list of things you want to try sexually — a new position, kind of touch, and something you've never asked for before. Instead of planning a 3 hour sex date to fit it all in, the doable piece might just be trying one new thing for 10 minutes.
Small and doable
This is how spring energy actually becomes something. Not by doing everything, but the doable piece.
Keep this idea close as you move through the reflection questions below.
These questions are designed to help you get honest about what you actually want this season.
If you have a journaling practice, this is a beautiful time to use it. If you did the spring breathwork practice, consider doing that first.
1. What areas of your life feel like there is potential quietly bubbling up right now?
Where do you feel stirring, even a small one? Sometimes potential shows up as a repeated thought or low-grade longing you've been pushing aside. Where is that for you right now?
2. As you feel that potential growing, what fears come up around leaning in?
Spring invites expansion, but expansion can feel unsafe. What stories or fears arise when you imagine actually pursuing what's stirring in you?
3. What have you been curious about lately? What new things have you been wanting to try?
What's been quietly calling to you? This could be a new hobby, a conversation you've been avoiding, a way of being with your partner you haven't tried, or something you've been wanting to explore sexually.
4. What would help you feel safe enough to actually explore those curiosities?
Safety is what makes exploration possible. Maybe you need a friend alongside you. Maybe you need a slower pace. Maybe you need to know there's space to integrate afterward. What does safety look like for you as you move into new territory?
5. If you tune into your inner child, what does she want to play with this season?
Your inner child holds your most unfiltered desires, the ones that haven't been shaped yet by obligation or fear. What does she want? What would she do if no one was watching and nothing was at stake?
6. How do you want to feel as you move through spring? What practices or choices would help you actually feel that way?
Don't just think about what you want to do. Think about how you want to feel. Alive? Connected? Free? Playful?
Once you've moved through these questions, come back to the doable piece concept. Look at what came up for you and ask:
Based on these answers, what are 2-3 doable pieces I want to lean into this spring?
These are your spring intentions. A real commitment to yourself about how you're going to meet this season. You'll want to bring them with you to the Spring Equinox Ceremony.
One of the most common reasons people don't have what they want in their intimate lives isn't because they're broken or because their relationship is beyond repair. It's because they've never gotten truly clear on what they actually want. They've never had the space, the permission, or the right questions to find out.
These reflection questions are a starting point. After that, it’s a journey of releasing what’s been keeping you small and building a real path toward the intimate life you actually want. For many people, that deeper work benefits enormously from support and guidance.
This is exactly what we do inside Your Dream Intimate Life, my 1:1 coaching container. Getting clear on your desires is one of the first and most transformative steps in our work together, because everything else builds from there.
If something in these questions stirred something in you, that’s worth paying attention to.
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